Conflict Resolution

Conflict Resolution 

Conflict resolution from a mindfulness perspective for children by children.

If we have difficulties with someone in our life or at school, sometimes, our teachers might give us some time alone to write a letter. The work of reconciliation is a great offering we can make to ourselves and to others. We always give good quality time to our letters and think about why communication has been difficult with that person. Why has happiness not been possible?

Our letters usually follow this structure to help us;

- Acknowledge the other's suffering.
- Acknowledge your part in the other's suffering.
- Ask for help from the other.
- Acknowledge that you cannot be happy if the other is not   happy.
- Promise to try and stop making the other suffer.

Writing a letter does not mean we cannot tell the truth, or we simply "give in" to our teacher's pressure to do right. We can tell the whole truth but in language of loving kindness. Before we write we have to look deeply into how we and the other person must be feeling. If we can show that we understand why they have suffered and hope they understand why we have suffered and have had difficulties, they will want to read the letter.

"Another way of dealing with conflict:
If you can, Meditate, afterwards reflect, why is this other person angry or cross with me? Maybe they were right to be angry? If it doesn't upset you too much, think maybe, just maybe! you were wrong. :-O

If you can't meditate just count to ten, and after that you should feel relaxed. If not count to twenty, if your still not relaxed, count to thirty, and by then you should not be angry any more! 

- Age 10"

Parents, teachers and children you will find great texts for dealing with conflict on our

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